They call the beginning of a relationship the “honeymoon phase,” but if you think about it, it’s really the “interview period.” When you’re on those first few dates, you’re both on your best behavior, in your best outfits, trying to see if this relationship is best for you. But if his best behavior when things are brand new is less than PERFECT, there’s no telling what is to come. Red flags always show up from the very beginning. Giving second chances or overlooking those flags it can only result in rude awakening when things get really rough.
Behavior in a relationship doesn’t usually get better. If you’ve seen the following behaviors from a new man in your life. it might be time to take a pass and just take your chances with other men who fully know what they are looking for.. He Brings Up His Ex…Again He might not be a bad guy, but if he has an ex he can’t get off of his mind? He’s still on the rebound and probably not ready for something new. Although rebounds in my opinion are a set of limitation people set on themselves to excuse lack of fully awareness, they can be dangerous due to uncertain bitter taste they leave behind. He Can’t Stop Talking About How Nice He Is Any man who repeatedly insists that he’s a “nice guy”, or 'real deal' he most likely isnt. Genuinely nice and real men do not feel the need to convince anyone of their traits. They show them through action. He’s Salty When You Don’t Sleep With Him The kind of man who thinks dinner and drinks are a down payment for sex is not one that you want to get to know better. In fact a number of them suggest just drinks as front up for first dates because it tends to be cheaper and is a form of attempting to use the person 'under the influence'. You’re Always Waiting for Him to Call Want to avoid one of those relationships where you’re waiting by the phone? Stop answering this guy’s calls. If you’re not on his mind regularly, he’s not worth your time. In today's technology when people cant let go of their phone from their hands, the easiest thing to do is to stay connected with the woman a man is pursuing. It is up to him to show you that he wants you to be major part of his life. Lack of calls or text messages is a sign of that he also lacks full interest in you. He’s Already Started Lying Whether you catch him in the act, or he’s told too many white lies, it’s a good idea to believe a man when he drops a hint that he shouldn’t be trusted. Trust is the most important ingredient in relationships. He Gets Too Drunk Accidentally overdoing it once because you’re nervous is understandable. But if you find yourself ending every date with a drunk person, he might be dropping a hint that he has a problem. Relationships with alcoholics are unstable and even brutal emotionally. He’s Bitter About his ex, about how he’s not treated well at his job, about everything under the sun. A man like this might have trouble taking responsibility for his actions and it won’t be long before he puts you on the list of people who’ve “wronged” him. There are conscious men out there who are capable of being responsible without blaming others for their own shortcomings. Not to mention that bitter men are a complete turn off even sexually. He Keeps You Waiting Unless his job keeps him very busy, a man who’s chronically late might be telling you that you don’t rate very high on his list of priorities. Serious man make plans in advance because they cant wait to see you. Being a priority in a man's life results in healthy happy growth of future. You Have Too Many Arguments About the Same Things We can all agree to disagree. But if he badgers you about why it’s dumb for you to be a vegetarian or to nice to others on your first few dates, it’s a bad sign. He is showing you that he rather argue with you for who you are than accept the differences. He Mostly Wants to Talk About Sex You’re trying to get to know him but he only wants to know what kind of position you like. It’s a clear sign that you’re interested in different things. Also it indicates that he is not interested in knowing you or vice versa but he is looking to have sex as soon as he can get his hands on it. He’s Rude To your friends, to the waitress, even in the way he talks about his ex. If he can’t even pretend to be nice, he’s really not. You will be the next person to have to deal with hes rudeness. Run! Ladies there are wonderful men out there who are more than willing to share life with you and keep the relationship healthy. Do not waste your time in men who cant impress you from the beginning.
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